Are you getting better or worse?

  I believe that in order to grow in life, you need to be willing to put yourself in uncomfortable situations. It's not a fun thing to do, nor is it necessary the easy thing to do.  But the only way you grow is through resistance. It's the same with growing muscle. You don't get buff by sitting on the couch. You grow your muscles by overtaxing them which encourages them to grow. Ditto with your brain. You don't get smart by watching TV.  I love the idea of being comfortable. There is a large part of me who wants to understand how to settle down and be happy.  Yet... I've probably slept in or on 50 different beds or floors in the last 100 days. It makes for some interesting shots on Instagram, yet when you look on the inside of me - I do crave comfort.  It's a pretty human thing.  Actually, I believe that when males are put in a situation where they have enough food, sex and television - we, to varying degrees, take the foot of the pedal and start growing beer bellies.  That's what I do, and then I pretty much hate myself for it and go and do something crazy. People have a hard time understanding that, and try to put some label on me.
  I believe that in order to grow in life, you need to be willing to put yourself in uncomfortable situations. It’s not a fun thing to do, nor is it necessary the easy thing to do.  But the only way you grow is through resistance. It’s the same with growing muscle. You don’t get buff by sitting on the couch. You grow your muscles by overtaxing them which encourages them to grow. Ditto with your brain. You don’t get smart by watching TV.  I love the idea of being comfortable. There is a large part of me who wants to understand how to settle down and be happy.  Yet… I’ve probably slept in or on 50 different beds or floors in the last 100 days. It makes for some interesting shots on Instagram, yet when you look on the inside of me – I do crave comfort.  It’s a pretty human thing.  Actually, I believe that when males are put in a situation where they have enough food, sex and television – we, to varying degrees, take the foot of the pedal and start growing beer bellies.  That’s what I do, and then I pretty much hate myself for it and go and do something crazy. People have a hard time understanding that, and try to put some label on me. “Oh Mario…”  I got that when I moved to America, I got that when I moved from LA to Portland, from Portland to LA, when I did my Ironman, when I moved to Europe and when I decided to drive across all lower 48.  I am not complaining. This has nothing to do with the grass being greener on the other side for me, but everything to do with the fact that I can’t figure out how live in balance.  Right now I am constantly uncomfortable, which I believe has helped me grow tremendously from a personal perspective yet isn’t a sustainable way of life.  When I get done with this trip, the key will be for me to not just settle down. I need to figure out a way to add an element of daily discomfort into my life (open to suggestions, except yoga)  which provides the motivation for continuous growth. That element probably shouldn’t be another road trip across America nor does it have to be an Ironman, some sort of ultra marathon or a move to Africa.  I need to stop jumping from one extreme to the other, and figure out a healthy middle path. One that can provide comfort and opportunities for growth. That’s my challenge. Think about your life.  Do you have too much comfort, or too little?  Are you getting better or worse?   Are you ok with that?

1 Comment

  1. Anonymous September 17, 2012 at 12:34 pm

    Mario, you and I are very similar. I always find myself wanting a major change in my life every 2 years or so. Unfortunately, now that I’m “settled” it’s been 5 years in the same place and 4 years in the same job and I am drowning. I guess the balance I’ve found is to live in the moment and find solace in the fact that the stability I’m providing for my family is very healthy for them. Also, I think daily discipline in something that is not too extreme can be grounding especially when its spiritual in nature. Second, I’m going to do some Mud/Obstacle racing which can be extreme, but doesn’t have to be, and provides enough crosstraining and variety to keep things interesting. It requires less equipment and less money, but as much challenge as you want to take on. My 2 cents.