the office

Ok, today I finished watching the final special of the series “The Office.” It seriously is the funniest television series ever made. Next to Alf.

At the very end, Ricky Gervais actually said something rather meaningful which was somewhat unexpected. But it got me thinking.

He said that in order for one to be happy, it takes three things:

1. A meaningful relationship.
I don’t think this has to be a boyfriend/girlfriend kind of thing, but rather to have meaningful relationships with people who matter to you. I got plenty of such. And an awesome girlfriend.

2. A good job.
Do what you love. And do a good a job at it. If you are not there yet, just keep working towards it and you’ll be happy.

3. To make a difference
Ok, this one puzzles me a little bit. What does it mean? I guess it could mean different things to different people. One might find the cure for cancer, while others volunteer at the animal shelter. There are nurses, teachers, lawyers, lovers, friends and just really good people. It seems like there are a lot of ways to make a difference. What is yours? What is mine? What do you want people to remember you by? If someone would write a newspaper article about you right now, what would be your headline?
I don’t know. Like I said, I am having a hard time. I am not smart enough to change the world, and not pretty enough to have millions of teenage girls plaster their walls with posters of me. But that would be nice. I think I can make a difference by the way I treat others. The little things. The way I say “hi” to people. The way I listen to people. Or maybe how hard I can make them laugh. I want to figure this one out. Maybe it comes with time. Or maybe it’s already there and I just don’t know.

How do you make a difference? And if you know, do you go out of your way to make it over and over? Should you? Would it make you happier if you did?


  1. Anonymous September 15, 2005 at 1:12 am

    You know Mario, that is probally one of the simplest and best descriptions of what it takes to be happy. I should know, i fail all three of those little catagories! But your right on the making a difference thing, i dont’ think it takes much, little things make the biggest difference. Anyways, read the blog, felt like commenting.

  2. Anonymous September 15, 2005 at 12:13 pm

    I don’t see making a difference as a very big thing at all. As in, it doesn’t take much. I think it often ties into the relationship part. If I consider the people that I have or have had really important relationships with, those people made a difference by the things they taught me (intentional or not) the way they made me feel (intentional or not) and the way I was changed by having known them. I would like to think that the people that I am important to have also been affected by me and therefore, I have made a difference to them.
    Being a nurse (or almost one anyway) has taught me how little it takes to make a difference. I’ll probably never cure cancer and I may never even bring someone back from death, but i’ve realized that even if i’m just giving a sick kid a bath or playing peek-a-boo with them, it makes a difference to them and their family, even if for just a little bit.